Realities About Dating Someone Older Than You
I have always had a thing for older guys. My first boyfriend was six years older, the next; was a thirteen-year difference, then it was eight years and now I am dating a guy eleven years older than me. Age has never made a difference in any of the relationships.
However, you may notice with dating someone older than you, that you have to accept things may be a little different if you were to be dating someone your own age or younger.
You may have to read them the menu - because they are losing their eyesight and it’s harder to read things, plus they left their glasses at home.
They may need one of those breathing apparatus for sleeping due to sleep apnea – thank goodness my boyfriend doesn’t need one of those
They may start balding or are already bald - all my boyfriends have been bald. I find it super attractive
Their dress sense and style is going out of fashion – some of the things my boyfriend thinks look great, are far from great. Or maybe that’s just a guy thing?
They will probably fall asleep while watching or reading something – this isn’t too often for us as we are early to bedtime but occasionally I need to wake him and help him to bed
The TV or radio volume will be much louderr than you think it needs to be
You will notice when you talk of the future, it is more about what they will do when they retire
Not as many Friday and Saturday nights out - that works for us but can be something we both miss on occasion so we still try to make an effort to go out at least one night a week
More doctor appointments - everything starts failing, squeaking or not working how it used to. You are the support and at times carer
Their taste in music may be different - we listen to two very different stations on the radio
They can be stubborn - they have had longer to form their habits, their beliefs and opinions. Or maybe that’s a guy thing too?
We laugh together at the things I have mentioned. They don’t have to be issues in a relationship but something you accept about the person. If it is an issue, then maybe it is not a good fit for you. Maybe you need to look for someone a bit younger.
Are you dating someone older? Or even younger? What’s your experience like? We would love it if you joined the conversation and left a comment below.